vulnerability in relationships

Breaking the Tit-for-Tat Cycle in Relationships: A Path to Secure Love

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In relationships, it’s common to get caught up in what we call the Tit-for-Tat Cycle. This occurs when partners keep score of who does more in the relationship, leading to frustration, resentment, and emotional disconnection. In a recent episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love podcast, Kim and Kyle unpack this harmful dynamic, offering practical […]

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Overcoming Envy: Key Lessons from the Roadmap to Secure Love Podcast

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Envy is a complex and often misunderstood emotion that can disrupt even the strongest relationships. Whether it’s seeing a friend’s success or feeling threatened by your partner’s connection with someone else, envy can leave you feeling inadequate and insecure. However, in the latest episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love podcast, hosts Kim and Kyle

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Vulnerability in Relationships: Embracing Emotional Openness for Lasting Connection

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In the latest episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love, hosts Kim and Kyle dive into a topic that strikes at the heart of meaningful, long-lasting relationships: vulnerability in relationships. For many, the idea of being truly vulnerable with a partner feels risky. Cultural pressures, personal insecurities, and fear of rejection often make it challenging

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Cracking the Negative Protest-Withdraw Pattern: A Journey to Deeper Connection

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Meet Sarah and Alex – a young, multicultural couple in their late twenties who recently moved to Seattle, WA seeking new opportunities. Sarah, a software engineer, and Alex, a marketing specialist, were excited about this fresh chapter in their lives. Today, they were planning a weekend getaway to celebrate their anniversary. However, when they started

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Connecting Through Confrontation: Fighting to Be Heard Pattern

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Escalating conflict involves partners who tend to seek connection and validation with strategies that are challenging and confrontational, rather than vulnerable. Why do we do this? Because our attachment system adapts to use the best strategies, (we know of), to get our needs met. Early in life, we learned that vulnerability or directly asking for

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