Have you ever shared a private story about your partner only to see their face fall—or worse, feel their trust in you quietly shift? It often starts innocently. You’re laughing with friends, trying to connect, and you mention something your partner did or said. It doesn’t feel like a big deal in the moment, but […]
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Navigating the emotional landscape of marriage is no small feat—but when in-laws enter the mix, things can quickly become more complicated. In our latest episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love podcast, we dive deep into the delicate process of in law conflict resolution and how couples can protect their bond without cutting off family
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When most people think about relationship health, they picture romance, connection, and maybe a little bit of conflict resolution. But one of the quietest—and most powerful—forces shaping your partnership is something far less discussed: shared decision making. In the latest episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love podcast, Kim and Kyle take on this rarely
In this powerful episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love podcast, Dr. Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson explore one of the most delicate, yet essential, topics for couples: sexual intimacy. While many couples may believe they are aligned on this subject, the truth is that unspoken expectations and assumptions about sexual intimacy can quietly erode
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When a relationship ends and both partners agree it’s time, there’s still heartbreak—but it’s at least a shared one. But what happens when the breakup isn’t mutual? When one person says, “I’m done,” and the other feels blindsided, desperate to hold on? This is the brutal experience of surviving unwanted separation, and it’s one of
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When we say “I do,” we rarely imagine that “I’m done” might one day follow. Yet for many couples, divorce becomes the reality after years of trying, therapy, sacrifice, and hope. In a recent episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love podcast, therapists Dr. Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson dive deep into one of the
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In this powerful episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love podcast, hosts Dr. Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson tackle a deeply important and often misunderstood topic: people pleasing and sex. This episode speaks directly to those who feel the pressure to perform in their intimate relationships, even when it means disconnecting from their own needs,
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At the heart of the mental load is the constant mental reviewing — running through checklists, double-checking tasks, and assessing what’s next. This process is rarely seen but is crucial to making sure nothing falls through the cracks. Reviewing is more than glancing at a to-do list; it’s a form of mental project management that
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Delegating tasks might seem like a straightforward solution to lighten the mental load — but it’s not that simple. For many women, delegating comes with its own burden. It’s not just about handing off a chore; it’s about thinking through what needs to be done, explaining it, monitoring the results, and dealing with the emotional
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One of the most overlooked yet mentally taxing components of the mental load is remembering. It’s not just about memorizing dates or items on a to-do list. It’s about holding the cognitive responsibility for an entire household’s needs, timelines, and preferences — and doing it around the clock. Remembering, in this context, is not passive.
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