emotional connection

The Avoid-Avoid Dance in Relationships: Closing the Distance

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Embracing a peaceful coexistence is the heart of a relationship where partners are inclined to navigate challenging or distressing situations through avoidance, withdrawing from each other, physically and/or emotionally. Meet Olivia and Owen, a same-sex couple of mixed cultural backgrounds in their thirties. Olivia works as a freelance artist, while Owen is a writer known […]

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Connecting Through Confrontation: Fighting to Be Heard Pattern

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Escalating conflict involves partners who tend to seek connection and validation with strategies that are challenging and confrontational, rather than vulnerable. Why do we do this? Because our attachment system adapts to use the best strategies, (we know of), to get our needs met. Early in life, we learned that vulnerability or directly asking for

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