When it comes to sexual desire, many people assume that desire is only something that happens spontaneously. Pop culture makes it seem like people are supposed to get turned on super easily, as if a switch can simply be flipped. When this isn’t how YOU experience desire, it can make you feel broken, like something […]
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What is this “Hold Me TightⓇ workshop” anyway, and how would it benefit our relationship? Great Question! A Hold Me TightⓇ workshop is a structured relationship focused program, developed by the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (aka EFT) Dr. Sue Johnson. In Sue’s approach, she speaks of the universal need for adult relationships to have
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When it comes to improving relationships, couples workshops have gained immense popularity in recent years. Among the various options available, the Hold Me Tight® workshop stands out as an exceptional choice for couples seeking to build a secure and thriving partnership. With a solid research backing, and a comprehensive framework for relationship growth, the Hold
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Sexual wellness is an important aspect of our well-being. Yet, for many people, issues related to sexual function or desire can cause distress and negatively impact their quality of life. Research has uncovered that 46% of people struggle with some form of sexual dysfunction.[1] Sexual dysfunction may include low libido, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, pain
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“We aren’t on the same page or even in the same book.” I hear this a lot. “You are right,” I tell them, “You are not. Your brains are different.” All brains see and experience the world in nuanced ways informed by our bodies, our minds, our emotions, the way we grew up, and the
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I am a certified sex therapist who works with matters of sexual health, erotic conflict, and relationships – with oneself and others. I specialize in helping people who struggle with what is often called “sex addiction,” though I prefer the term Out of Control Sexual Behavior (OCSB) because it reduces shame and centers understanding. What
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Are you having trouble managing your sexual behavior? Are you wondering if you are addicted to porn? Has your sexual behavior caused trouble for your relationships, or made you feel horrible about yourself? Does sex feel out of control? My approach is to prioritize sexual health: to support men who wish to gain control over
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In the expansive world of therapy, there is an approach that’s steadily gaining recognition: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). Founded in the late 1980s by Dr. Francine Shapiro, EMDR has emerged as a highly effective treatment for individuals experiencing trauma, anxiety, PTSD, and a variety of other disturbances to one’s well-being. [1] My goal
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“How do you build trust? Am I always going to be the person who screwed up? Where do we go from here?” As I sat on my end of a telehealth session listening to a client ask me some variation of these questions, I experienced a momentary bout of imposter syndrome as I struggled to
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Trauma tends to feel like a buzzword these days. All humans seem to have it, which begs the question: is living traumatic? So, what is Trauma? There are many definitions. A basic definition of Trauma shows something to the effect of “a distressing or disturbing event”. The American Psychological Association explains trauma as the “emotional
