“We aren’t on the same page or even in the same book.” I hear this a lot. “You are right,” I tell them, “You are not. Your brains are different.” All brains see and experience the world in nuanced ways informed by our bodies, our minds, our emotions, the way we grew up, and the […]
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I am a certified sex therapist who works with matters of sexual health, erotic conflict, and relationships – with oneself and others. I specialize in helping people who struggle with what is often called “sex addiction,” though I prefer the term Out of Control Sexual Behavior (OCSB) because it reduces shame and centers understanding. What
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Are you having trouble managing your sexual behavior? Are you wondering if you are addicted to porn? Has your sexual behavior caused trouble for your relationships, or made you feel horrible about yourself? Does sex feel out of control? My approach is to prioritize sexual health: to support men who wish to gain control over
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In the expansive world of therapy, there is an approach that’s steadily gaining recognition: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). Founded in the late 1980s by Dr. Francine Shapiro, EMDR has emerged as a highly effective treatment for individuals experiencing trauma, anxiety, PTSD, and a variety of other disturbances to one’s well-being. [1] My goal
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“How do you build trust? Am I always going to be the person who screwed up? Where do we go from here?” As I sat on my end of a telehealth session listening to a client ask me some variation of these questions, I experienced a momentary bout of imposter syndrome as I struggled to
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Trauma tends to feel like a buzzword these days. All humans seem to have it, which begs the question: is living traumatic? So, what is Trauma? There are many definitions. A basic definition of Trauma shows something to the effect of “a distressing or disturbing event”. The American Psychological Association explains trauma as the “emotional
Clients with chronic pain describe similar experiences of a struggle to focus. They are constantly vacillating between two not-so-great options: 1) experience their bodies and all the pain and suffering within them or 2) attempt to balance in the space somewhere outside the body, beyond pain’s grasp. I present these two options like there is
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Falling in love is easy. Staying in love is hard. Romantic relationships can be hard work. The challenges you face as a couple can even smother the spark of passion that brought you together in the first place. Whether it’s the stress of daily life, the challenges of raising a family, or simply the passage
If you’re struggling with sexual health or relationship issues, seeking the help of a sex therapist can be an excellent step towards improving your mental and sexual wellbeing. However, finding a competent sex therapist in Seattle, WA, can be a challenging task. Not only is talking about sex a personal topic, there is often shame,
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Maintaining a healthy and happy relationship is not always easy, especially since many of us do not have great role models, and our education did not teach us how to have mature and secure romantic relationships. As a result, our intimate partnerships tend to struggle with communication, emotional connection, eroticism, and even specific challenges such
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