Congratulations, you’re newlyweds! Everything is going great – the conversations are flowing; the sex feels exciting; you’re giving each other good morning kisses; and there is nothing your partner could do that would turn you off! Fast forward a few years – the conversation has changed to the weather; your desire for sex has decreased; […]
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Planning is the foundation of the mental load. It’s the quiet, persistent background work that ensures a household runs smoothly and that everyone’s needs are met — often before they even arise. It may look like she’s just “thinking ahead,” but in reality, it’s a highly active, continuous form of labor that rarely stops. What She’s Planning
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Mental load can be overwhelming, yet it often goes completely unnoticed. Even those closest to the person carrying it — like a partner — may have no idea just how much is happening inside her mind every day. But why is this kind of labor so invisible? The Nature of Mental Load Mental load is primarily
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Have you ever found yourself in a loving, secure relationship—but still feeling anxious, on edge, or unable to fully trust? Maybe your partner is kind, consistent, and emotionally available, yet you’re waiting for the other shoe to drop. If so, you’re not alone. In this episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love podcast, therapists Kimberly
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Healing communication when one partner says “no” to intimacy Talking about sex in a committed relationship can feel like walking into emotionally charged territory. For many couples, the conversation around intimacy is loaded with vulnerability, fear of rejection, or past pain. That’s why in the latest episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love podcast, certified
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We all want passion, connection, and joy in our intimate relationships—but what happens when sex becomes boring? It’s a vulnerable question. One that’s difficult to ask out loud, especially with someone you love deeply. In the latest episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love podcast, therapists Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson explore how to talk
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In a world full of distractions, expectations, and emotional overwhelm, one of the hardest things we can do is trust ourselves. In the latest episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love podcast, hosts Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson take a deep dive into what it really means to trust yourself—and why this simple concept is
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Have you ever been in a conversation with your partner when suddenly, your emotions take over? Your heart starts racing, your thoughts become scattered, and before you know it, you’re either lashing out or shutting down. This overwhelming response is called emotional flooding, and it’s one of the most common reasons conflicts escalate in relationships.
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Parenting is a journey filled with both joy and challenges, but for many of us, it also brings up unresolved wounds from our own childhood. The way we were raised—whether we experienced emotional neglect, strict discipline, or a lack of validation—deeply influences how we show up for our children. The challenge? Breaking generational parenting patterns
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Due to the daily pressures, distractions, and dynamics of modern life, a romantic relationship doesn’t have to be dysfunctional to grow distant over time. Long working hours and the demands of raising children can push date night, sex, and romantic vacations to last place on the priority list. Researchers at UCLA observed 30 dual-career couples
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