At the heart of the mental load is the constant mental reviewing — running through checklists, double-checking tasks, and assessing what’s next. This process is rarely seen but is crucial to making sure nothing falls through the cracks. Reviewing is more than glancing at a to-do list; it’s a form of mental project management that […]
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Delegating tasks might seem like a straightforward solution to lighten the mental load — but it’s not that simple. For many women, delegating comes with its own burden. It’s not just about handing off a chore; it’s about thinking through what needs to be done, explaining it, monitoring the results, and dealing with the emotional
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When people think about work around the house, they usually think of physical tasks — vacuuming, cooking, mowing the lawn. These are visible and often praised when completed. But there’s another type of work that often goes unnoticed: mental labor. Understanding the difference between these two kinds of labor is essential for creating a balanced relationship. Mental Labor
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Invisible labor is the unseen work that goes into making life run smoothly, and it’s one of the most underestimated parts of the mental load. Even when no physical tasks are being done, the mental wheels are always turning. Invisible labor is often ignored because it doesn’t leave a physical trace, yet it is essential and demanding. What Counts
Planning is the foundation of the mental load. It’s the quiet, persistent background work that ensures a household runs smoothly and that everyone’s needs are met — often before they even arise. It may look like she’s just “thinking ahead,” but in reality, it’s a highly active, continuous form of labor that rarely stops. What She’s Planning
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