heterosexual relationships

One of the most overlooked yet mentally taxing components of the mental load is remembering. It’s not just about memorizing dates or items on a to-do list. It’s about holding the cognitive responsibility for an entire household’s needs, timelines, and preferences — and doing it around the clock. Remembering, in this context, is not passive. […]

At the core of the mental load conversation lies an uncomfortable truth: power in heterosexual relationships is often unequally distributed. This imbalance isn’t always about who earns more or who makes the final decisions. It often hides in more subtle places — like who is expected to plan, manage, and emotionally tend to the household.