How to talk to your kids about sex

April 22, 2014

This is always an interesting topic among parents. The ideas surrounding purity and the church, parents’ own histories, and their worries for their children can often cloud the best way to talk to kids about sex.


When I talk to parents about having the sex-talk with their kids, I usually give them 10 or so ways to have that conversation. One of the ways that I will address here is:


Have 1000 one minute conversation about sex with your kids!


At a young age, kids should be talked to about their bodies by their parents. It does not have to be a sit down TALK for 30 minutes.


In fact, having the TALK with your child during the teen-age years usually ends up with the teen rolling eyes, not listening and feeling uncomfortable.Talking in the car with your second grader about a crush he or she has, talking about good touch and bad touch during a walk – these are all ways to start the conversation.If you watch a television show with your kids and you notice the characters are dating and kissing, take a moment to talk about that with your kids.


Talk to them about what it means to be a boy or girl on the way to school. Any opportunity to talk about their bodies, feelings, crushes, and so on: take it!There are many things that hinder us from talking with our kids in this way about their sexuality.


One of them can be personal sexual pain. If you fall into this category, don’t be afraid to seek professional help. It will not only help you, but help your children embrace fully their sexuality!



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