Have you been (or are you currently) in a romantic relationship that leaves you feeling unheard, as though your efforts to improve the relationship are invisible, and like your significant other doesn’t seem to care?
Relationships struggle, not because of a lack of trying, but because partners are using attachment strategies that influence partners to feel more attacked, inadequate, and abandoned.
Sadly, the more our intimate relationship struggles, the more we feel…
The problem is that partners can’t see the attachment strategies that hinder them from feeling the love and care that can bond them.
Hint: It’s often there, we just are not seeing it and that’s the problem.
How a Secure Relationship Feels:
When we understand our attachment strategies, we can take a different path that leads us to feeling...
How an Insecure Relationship Feels:
When we are hindered by attachment strategies, our relationships feel like...
Research shows that understanding our attachment strategies in adulthood can help us implement secure attachment strategies that get our needs met and cultivate a more secure romantic relationship.
Every week for the past 8 years, Kim and Kyle have been writing, presenting, and providing therapy to help romantic partners build a bridge over the chasm of miscommunication and insecurity to each other.
Here are some of the common problems we have noticed when it comes to relationships that leave us feeling inadequate, unlovable, and that it’s better to leave.
“I often feel my partner just doesn't get me”
It’s not uncommon for partners to feel they are missing each other when they try to communicate. It is almost like they are speaking different languages that leaves them both feeling unheard, unseen, and frustrated. In this course, we will help you and your partner begin to speak the same language. We will lay the stepping stones to help you understand what your partner might be saying, as well as how to verbalize what you are needing.
“Give us some tools so we can feel closer”
When partners come into our offices and ask for tools, they are looking for solutions because they desperately need change. Knowing a clear path and having tools on how to build a solid relationship gives us all a sense of security, hope, and confidence. In this course, you will be given some practical tools that you can immediately utilize to help build deep connections within your relationships.
“Am I doomed to be in an unhealthy relationship because of my upbringing?”
Quick answer: NO!
Understanding how our childhood attachment affects our adult attachment is pivotal. When we understand how we were raised, we can then choose to embrace behaviors we have learned or we can choose to do things differently. The good news is: adult attachments can be secure, healthy, and fulfilling, EVEN if our childhood attachments were not.
The Attachment course is filled with evidence-based strategies to support you in:
The Attachment course covers research proven principles to support you in seeing what blocks your relationships from feeling sturdy and stable.
Our course is designed to guide you through the intricacies of attachment styles and their impact on relationships.
By enrolling in The Secure Attachment Path, you will learn how to:
*These require specialized and professional support
People who know me often say that I see everything from an attachment perspective. They are right! I truly believe all of us long to be seen, heard, and understood. We need a safe place to just be human, to be not perfect, to be celebrated and to be lovingly challenged. Science has shown that having a secure relationship is a health benefit - it lowers pain, lowers heart rate, lowers blood pressure, increases joy. This is why my heart aims to help people thrive in their relationships - it aids to overall health and satisfaction!
A little about me: I am a white, neurodiverse cisgender female who lives with an autoimmune disorder. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Supervisor, Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor and a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist and Supervisor.
I've spent the last eight years immersed in the study of what makes relationships secure and emotionally connected — interviewing researchers, consulting experts in this field, and pursuing research, all in order to develop practical and effective tools to help partners build better relationships. I care about this work because I know what it’s like to feel insecure and have relationships that feel unstable. In my work, I have written over 200 articles and have spoken in over 100 online events. Over 400,000 people read my articles every year and my work has been featured in US News, Business Insider, The Gottman Institute, and more. Over 35,000 people subscribe to my newsletter.
A little bit about me: I am a white, cisgender male who lives with an autoimmune disease. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and manage research studies at The Gottman Institute.
The Secure Attachment Path course integrates the research on the effectiveness of how to change relationships with approaches that we have personally used with romantic partners we see in our practice. We’ve witnessed time and again romantic partners who began their work with us feeling disconnected, lonely, and hopeless, turn their relationship around! They did so by utilizing the insight and tools we address in the Secure Attachment Path course. If, for any reason, the Secure Attachment Path doesn’t work for you, please let us know. We’ll gladly offer you a full refund within 30 days of your purchase.